I identified and shifted ONE belief many years ago that changed EVERYTHING for me when it came to consistency and what defines success with my exercise & nutrition.
The Definition of Success
My old beliefs sounded something like this…I have to do ALL the things and I have to do them perfectly. If I can’t do it the way I think I need to then why bother doing anything. If I’m not doing everything then what’s the point because I won’t get the results I want anyway.
This is an ALL OR NOTHING mindset and it wasn’t supporting me in moving towards my health & fitness goals.
How Success is measured:
I kept swinging the pendulum back and forth for years not realizing what was going on at a deeper subconscious level.
What these beliefs were actually doing was supporting my ULTIMATE limiting belief of I’M NOT ENOUGH.
Every-time my actions didn’t measure up to my definition of perfection it reinforced my belief that I’m not enough.
Every-time I didn’t do all the things I intended I told myself, “see you can never do enough.”
Every-time I said I was going to workout or change my eating and I didn’t, it always came back to I’m not good enough to get the results I want.
Trying to measure up to perfection that is not attainable always left me feeling not enough which is EXACTLY what I believed.
Why would I consistently do things to take care of myself if I didn’t believe I was enough?
If I would start to see results and positive changes, I would create a reason to stop or life would give me one because what I was experiencing wasn’t in line with my beliefs!
The Success Key
We don’t get what we want in life, we get what we believe.
Do you believe that you have to do ALL the things in order to get the physical transformation you desire?
What do you believe about yourself?
What do you believe about your capabilities?
What do you believe about what it means to take care of yourself?
These are powerful questions to ask.
An all or nothing mindset is EXHAUSTING! I know because I did it for so many years.
Story to Success
Finally, I just got sick of it and tired of feeling like whatever I did was never enough that I let it go.
I decided to redefine, what defines Success.
What I did instead was I started focusing on any and all progress I made and celebrating my WINS. This left me feeling good and when we feel good it’s easier to create transformation. You can read more about progress not perfection HERE.
I let go of the idea of perfectionism because it was defeating to chase something that doesn’t exist.
That alone gave me more energy and motivation to be consistent with the habits that supported my looking, feeling, and performing at my best.
I changed my beliefs to:
I am enough.
I love & approve of myself.
I can make progress and achieve my goals through consistent action each day.
I don’t have to do it all and I will still have success.
1-2 workouts a week is better than zero workouts.
A 20 minute workout is better than no workout.
One serving of vegetables is better than zero servings.
Doing 3 yoga poses or stretches before bed is better than not doing any.
5 deep breaths to calm your nervous system is better than not pausing at all.
So, What Defines Success?
It does not have to be all or nothing my friends. The only reason it’s that way is because of your thinking. That thinking is there to protect you in some way and it’s also not serving you in getting what you want.
If you aren’t as consistent as you would like to be, could it be because of all or nothing thinking?
This isn’t about willpower, motivation, or even time, this is about getting underneath the belief driving the all or nothing thinking which is driving the all or nothing behavior.