Feeling stuck? Feeling stuck in career? OR worst, Feeling Stuck in Life?
Let’s talk about Goals!
Yesterday, I shared really simple and effective goal PLANNING ideas.
As I was leading into the topic I said…
I’ve never met a really, really successful person who didn’t set goals. Furthermore, each of them stresses the importance of writing goals down.
At the same time, I’ve come across a LOT of people who don’t set life goals at all out of fear of not achieving them and then being disappointed. Their logic, although they never actually voice it, is if you don’t set stretch goals you can’t fail to achieve them…
While that’s certainly true, it’s also the formula for an unfulfilled life that is nowhere near your full potential.
Then I went into the main point of the newsletter sharing the personal goal planning strategy, which got really good feedback, by the way. 🙂
But, looking back, I want to be sure that the opening statement about NOT setting goals isn’t overlooked…
This is actually a BIG deal.
And, it’s the reason so many people stay feeling STUCK!
If you’ve found it difficult to set realistic goals in life, have you ever asked yourself why?
And, let me tell you, I too have struggled with personal goal planning at times.
I’ve had the “why bother?” thoughts, the “you never know what curveballs are going to be thrown at you” thoughts, and certainly the “if I don’t set big future goals I won’t be disappointed or feel like a failure if I don’t hit my life goals” thoughts.
I’ve also found myself in a primal state working on future goal setting & planning because I got too caught up in “doing it right” and having the perfect framework or goal planning template to fill out – I’ve tried a bunch of different programs/courses.
Hell, I’ve even found myself in a suffering state because it wasn’t neat enough or didn’t look good as I compared it to a mentor of mine who gets an infographic made of his goals each year or some Instagram personality who is a Canva wiz!
Janell likes to use “flare” pens and stickers as part of some elaborate goals bullet journal she has. My Google Goals Doc with checkboxes looks pretty weak by comparison. ;-b
But none of that really matters!
Whether it’s fear of failure, comparison, or thoughts of not doing it right these are all just unintelligent thinking getting in the way of achieving your goals.
NOTE: Unintelligent thinking has nothing to do with your intelligence. In this context, unintelligent means not in alignment with the intelligence of life itself…and therefore UNTRUE.
“If I set future goals and don’t achieve them then I’m a failure.”
“If my life goals sheet doesn’t look good or follow some elaborate formula it’s not going to be as effective.”
Do you see why it’s so easy to quit before you even start?
Look, let’s just keep it really simple…
Are there things in your life that you want to improve?
Are there things you’d like to change?
Are there things you’d like to do or accomplish?
Are there things you’d like to acquire?
There you go. Now you have the foundation of a set of future goals.
You know your life goals not going to become a reality if you don’t do some work to achieve them…
So, if you really want them, turn them into SMART Goals and run them through the goal planning process I shared on Monday (Linked Below).
And, hey, if they don’t all come true you’re no worse off than you are right now…unless you insert some story about not achieving them making you a failure… But, couldn’t you also insert a story that you’re a failure right now for not having these things that you truly want? Or, you could bullshit yourself and say you really don’t want them to let yourself off the hook…
IMPORTANT POINT: You’re NOT a failure either way. Do you see how we can create so much suffering and primal thinking that leads to unwanted results and unhappiness when we tell ourselves these ridiculous stories?
If you still have resistance to setting SMART Goals, I encourage you to explore that more…
Have Faith & Take Action!